A term popularized by author and speaker Emilie Wapnick in her TEDx Talk “Why Some of Us Don’t Have One True Calling” (2015) and her book How to Be Everything (HarperOne, 2017).
For most of my life, I thought something was wrong with me.
I couldn’t stick to just one thing. I’d get excited, dive in, learn fast… and then lose interest — not out of laziness, but because once I’d understood something, my brain was already scanning for the next challenge.
I’ve worked in customer service, banking, merchandising, design, writing, caregiving… more roles than I care to list. Every time I started over, I told myself, “This is it. This is the thing I’m going to stick with.”
And every time, eventually — it wasn’t.
That cycle?
It wears on you.
It makes you question your discipline, your identity, and honestly… your worth.
But here’s what I’ve learned the hard way:
I wasn’t failing because I had too many interests.
I was failing because I was trying to force myself into a system that was never built for
someone like me.
How Having Too Many Interests Became a Problem
We’re taught early on that success looks like:
- Pick a path
- Stay consistent
- Become an expert
- Don’t quit
Sounds good in theory.
But if you’re wired like me, that advice slowly turns into pressure… and then into guilt.
Every time I pivoted, I felt like I was:
- Starting over from zero
- Wasting time
- Proving I “couldn’t stick with anything”
So I’d try harder to force it. Stay longer. Push through boredom.
And that’s where the real damage happened.
"Forcing yourself into the wrong lane doesn’t build success — it builds burnout."
Why I Know This Works (Because I’m Living It Right Now)
I’m not speaking from some polished, “I made it” mountaintop.
I’m in it.
Right now, I’m:
- Building a website from scratch
- Writing multiple books in completely different genres
- Exploring business ideas like concierge services
- Trying to turn scattered experience into something sustainable
And for the first time, I’m not trying to shrink myself to make it work.
I’m learning how to use everything I’ve done instead of starting over every time.
That shift alone changes everything.
The Moment It Clicked
At some point, I stopped asking:
What should I focus on?
And started asking:
What if none of this was random?
Because when I looked closer, it wasn’t random at all.
It was:
- Communicating clearly, from years in customer service
- Staying organized, from office and administrative work
- Thinking creatively, from design and writing
- Reading people and situations, from caregiving
Individually, they felt scattered.
Together?
They started to look like something valuable.
What I’m Doing Differently Now (And Why It’s Working)
1. I’m Stacking Skills Instead of Replacing Them
Nothing I’ve done is wasted anymore — and that realization changed how I approach everything.
Before, I treated each new direction like I was starting from zero. Now I see them as layers.
For example:
- Writing + creativity → books and blog content
- Life experience + service mindset → concierge business ideas
- Design + storytelling → future products and branding
Nothing is wasted anymore.
2. I Stopped Waiting to Feel “Ready”
This one hit me hard.
I used to think:
- I need more research
- I need a better plan
- I need to be more consistent first
Truth is? That was fear dressed up as preparation.
Now I move faster. Not recklessly — but imperfectly.
Because action teaches faster than overthinking ever will.
3. I’m Finishing Smaller Things (Instead of Dreaming Bigger Ones)
This was a big obstacle for me.
I’d start big:
- A full business
- A long-term plan
- A huge creative project
And then stall out halfway.
Now I focus on finishing:
- One blog post
- One idea
- One small step
And stacking those wins.
It doesn’t feel as exciting — but it actually works.
The Honest Truth About Why This Is Hard
Let me be real with you.
This isn’t just about strategy.
It’s emotional.
Because when you’ve spent years feeling like you can’t “stick with anything,” it messes with your confidence. You start to hesitate. Second-guess. Hold back.
You don’t trust yourself to follow through.
I’ve been there — and some days, I still am.
But every small thing I finish now rebuilds that trust a little more.
What I’d Tell You If You’re Where I Was
You’re not broken.
You’re not behind.
You’re just trying to use a system that doesn’t match how you’re wired.
You don’t need to:
- Pick one thing forever
- Throw away your past experience
- Wait until everything makes perfect sense
You need to start connecting what you already have.
A Simple Way to Start (What I’m Doing Right Now)
Here’s exactly what I’m doing:
- I wrote down my main skills
- I picked two that felt natural together
- I created something small (this blog is part of that)
- I published it before I felt ready
No overthinking. No perfection.
Just movement.
The Bigger Shift
I used to think my path was all over the place.
Now I’m starting to see it differently.
It wasn’t random.
It was layered.
And if I keep going this way — stacking instead of restarting — I’m not building one skill.
I’m building something most people can’t replicate.
Final Thought
I’m still figuring this out.
But for the first time, I don’t feel like I’m constantly starting over.
I feel like I’m finally building forward.
And if you’ve lived the same cycle I have…
There’s a good chance you’re not stuck either.
You’re just one shift away from using everything you’ve already been through.
Attribution
The term “multipotentialite” was popularized by Emilie Wapnick in her 2015 TEDx Talk, “Why Some of Us Don’t Have One True Calling,” and her book How to Be Everything (HarperOne, 2017). Learn more at puttylike.com .
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